The Mystery under the wig🤔😳

I finally decided to take my wig off-Sounds so funny to say, but I promise I’m not a balding Middle Aged woman-I’m just a twenty-something year old who’s trying dabbling in alternative inexpensive protective hair style options. 

A few days ago, I somehow mustered up the confidence to take my ombré two toned, dark brown and blonde shoulder length wig off. Yes, I unleashed the fro ✊🏾

I got a little tired and annoyed with the constant heading patting and itching. I think that was either a sign from my hair that it needed to be washed or just a “let me  loose cry!”

So I did as my hair requested. I took the wig off, unbraided my cornrows and man, I tell you, it felt goood to be free…

Now, I was standing face to face with the real me in all of my natural glory. I stared at my natural tresses, examining it intently, stretching the ends to measure the growth and then wondering what the hell Am I going to do with “this” for work.

I thought maybe I’ll think of something once I begin combing through it. And surely, I thought of a cute little twist out idea. The process of this cute little twist out was longer than I expected. Once I start styling my hair, I don’t give up. No matter how long it takes. 

I lathered my hair with my Creme of Nature Argan oil Buttermilk moisturizer, placed shea butter and  around the perimeter (on my edges and nape) for extra moisture, sheen and protection. After, I began the nearly two-hour process of parting my hair into small boxes and doing two strand twists. I still haven’t figured out how to do three strand twists, so for now I’ll stick to what I know. 

The next morning after I was completely showered and dressed, I unraveled the twists. I was a little aggravated because a few twists were awkwardly jutting out of my scalp. I was prepared for those little unruly twists, I used a small amount of Eco gel to hold them down. Thanks Eco Gel, all this time I’ve been doubting. You came through when I needed you. 

Then I was out the door and off the work. The gentle breeze lightly passing over my scalp, like cool fingers as I walked towards the bus stop.  


  Later on that same day, one of my fellow naturalista co-workers greeted me with surprise and enthusiasm for revealing the mystery under the wig. She encouraged me to wear my natural hair more often work and revealed her dislike for my wig wearing. Usually I would get oftened by such comments but in actuality, I was receptive and appreciative of her realness. 

It felt good to be me, feel like me and show the real me at work. 

She hasn’t changed my views on wearing wigs, but she has empowered me to switch it up,by aternating between hair style options.  I don’t always have the time or energy to retwist my hair. Plus, wigs are easy and convenient protective options. 

I guess I can let my hair out a little more often from now on. 


A Naturalistas Plea- Sometimes growing is the hardest thing to do

Throughout my entire life, I don’t think I’ve ever had a more infuriating love/hate relationship similar to the one I have with you. 
For years I’ve tended to your needs, by helping you get rid of the excess stress and damage when needed. Mainly because I thought this would be the new, fresh start you deserved. On top of that, I keep you well groomed with the appropriate amount of trimming. I’ve protected you from harsh climates and chemicals. Always making sure you were first, without regard to the price because  your protection is what matters the most. Hell, I’ve even kept my word to never ever ever eveeer allow you to relapse and revert  back to feeding your creamy crack addiction. 

I did my part in this, now it’s your turn to do the same. I’m working non-stop in efforts of tending to your high maintenance needs.

It’s been 4 years, going on 5 and I’m still dealing with your stubborn stagnation. I’ve put up with you for so long. And you’re right, I haven’t always kept my promise or maintained my consistence And I might have even switched my actions a few times, yet not once did I ever dare to give up on you and most importantly OUR journey. 

I want this relationship to flourish but you have to work with me too, not against me. Believe me, when I say this, I want nothing more than for us to grow, but more importantly for you to grow and reach your fullest potential. 

 Come on, it’s been a long time coming, please do this favor for me and 



Don’t take the easy way out

For all of the females out there with natural hair or going through the transitioning phase. I know how much of a hassle it can be to maintain that mane or even come up with a cute and easy hairdo without spending hours in the mirror.  Days like this, I bet you are tempted to just walk to  a near-by store or beauty parlor and just relax that kinky,curly bad boy.  I sure know I’ve had my days, where I either wanted to chop it all off or just relax it. Then I would think about the evolution of my hair and how far it has come. Also, I think about how much stuff I’ve learned and the skills I’ve developed since I became my own beautician. Not to mention the ton of money my parents and I have been able to save since I amended my creamy crack ways.

Yes, natural hair is a ton of work and some may even say it’s expensive. But , I’m sure you’ve all heard the cliche saying anything you have to work hard for is worth it. So just think of this process as being a lifelong reward for healthy beautiful hair.

Note-to- self and all Natural hair ladies: “Don’t give up on your hair” After all God never gives his people more than they can bare. I’m well aware that there are going to be people who read this and say ” Oh no, not another Black girl who think she’s a natural hair guru”. Because truthfully I’m not a natural hair guru. I’m just another black girl who has decided to embark on her journey to rediscovery.  I’m not following a trend and I’m not sure if this is just one of many hair phases, but so far I am enjoying the ride.

Lately, I’ve been on pinterest, pinning, re-pinning, liking and commenting on numerous posts. I’ve even created a board dedicated to natural hair. Ladies if you ever feel like you can’t think of a cute new hairstyle, then maybe you should join pinterest to get some inspiration.

What kind of hairstyles are there for natural hair ? Well I’m glad you ask! If you ever want to get experimental and try something new then you’ll jump for joy when you see these jaw dropping, eye brow poppin’ options!

Protective styles (Which I’ve tried and highly recommend)

Braids: Always fun and so versatile. This style never gets boring or becomes deemed as old/out of fashion.

  • Classic cornrows
  • Stylish Cornrows
  • Long Jumbo single braids
  • Braided Mohawks

Full head weaves: Usually painful when they’re first installed, but nonetheless gorgeous and can be worn various ways.

  • Side part
  • Middle part
  • Bang- Side Bang-
  •  Short shoulder length Bob

Wigs: If you are into wigs then by all means get a few. Wigs come in handy during the winter season, it’s like a woman’s personal hat.