A long overdue Thank you

Thank you for holding my hand during moments I pulled away Thank you for reaching for a kiss even when I stubbornly resisted the urge to feel the warmth of your love Thank you for pulling me close and embracing every flaw and fault even when I  refused and pulled away from you Thank you…

Attention Natural hair Novices and Skeptics, Please Read!

Clarke Sanders1. Extensions don’t mean that I don’t love my natural hair or myself. The first time that I was faced with this perspective was in Missouri when a girl asked me if I did not like myself since she rarely got to see my “real” hair. I will admit, I was caught off guard.… via…

According to America, not all are created equally 

I woke up this morning with a prayer in my heart and rapid thoughts running through my mind My black People this oppressive society was not made for us This society was not made to love us No matter how good we do and who we strive to be, we are always perceived as the…

No Best Friend Zone

Smiling faces, tight hugs and passionately written captions, hashtagged #Bestie #BestBitch #BFF are just daily reminders of where I fall short in life, a best friend. I’ve never been a certified loner or the extremely introverted weird kid that creepily sits in the back of the class room friendless. while growing up I always welcomed…

“It doesn’t even matter”

It doesn’t matter how good your sex is It doesn’t matter how strong your head game is It doesn’t matter when and how much you say you love him and text/call to prove how much you care Once a man’s interest in you has faded, he’ll be moving on to the next one and you’re…

Bitch, sit down. Be selfish!

1. Devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others. (Dictionary.com) Dear reader, I’m not trying to offend anyone by citing the dictionary.com definition of selfish. I’m sure you offhand know  what it means or at best are knowledgeable enough to describe it. I just…

You’re DTP (Disturbin’ the Peace) headphone rapper!

So once again it’s that time of the month, and no, I’m not hear to share the stressful woes of the female menstrual cycle. I’m referring to my monthly Orthodontist appointments in NYC, that I must say are painfully depleting my bank accounts. For some strange reason I enjoy observing people: detecting emotions through candid…

Brothers Lessons

As a child, you teased me making sure my skin was tough enough for the cruel world and mean kids. As a child, you showed me the definition of unconditional love. As a child, it was you who taught me to fight with my hands, making sure I protected myself at all times. Protect myself…

The Mystery under the wig🤔😳

I finally decided to take my wig off-Sounds so funny to say, but I promise I’m not a balding Middle Aged woman-I’m just a twenty-something year old who’s trying dabbling in alternative inexpensive protective hair style options.  A few days ago, I somehow mustered up the confidence to take my ombré two toned, dark brown…

A Naturalistas Plea- Sometimes growing is the hardest thing to do

Throughout my entire life, I don’t think I’ve ever had a more infuriating love/hate relationship similar to the one I have with you.  For years I’ve tended to your needs, by helping you get rid of the excess stress and damage when needed. Mainly because I thought this would be the new, fresh start you…